The rhetoric that our society repeats over and over causes these beliefs: “If I had been smarter, stronger, braver… then it wouldn’t have happened.”
I would listen as they all shared a similar version of the same story:
That they were alone.
They felt alone with their emotional pain because, unlike a broken bone or a cut, this wound is invisible. They felt alone because it seemed like everyone else around them had their shit together while they felt like the fire of hell was burning inside them and all around them.
Of course, I knew that they weren’t the only ones because I was simultaneously working with at least five other women who were sharing the same thoughts, stories, and feelings.