For those instances when a fight does happen, the best thing we can do is to take a time-out. Having an agreement already in place to take a 20-minute break when things become too heated can really help turn things around.
It’s OK to take a time out.
During this pause, it’s important to take a little bit of space from one another and do something that will help you to deescalate. Having a list of engaging activities to choose from ahead of time will help you to be more successful in distracting yourself and clearing your mind. Then, when you come back together with your partner take a few moments to make repairs by owning anything you said or did that led to things becoming escalated.